A parent with a special needs child instantly becomes an Advocate. You learn the job through trial and error. Advocating is hard work. It can be emotionally and physically draining. As an advocate you ONLY settle for solutions. A can NOT attitude and NO as an answer is NEVER acceptable. You keep pushing, researching, and discovering techniques/ solutions to get the best result and answer for your child. An advocate will not leave one stone unturned. For me, the 2021- 2022 school years has pushed my advocacy to the next level.
Background
My youngest son Kenden has Autism. He was diagnosed at the age of two years old. He is now 10 years old. I’m proud of all the progress and achievements he has gained over the years. However, This current school year has been a struggle for him. Continuing development is important for Kenden’s needs. His overall goal is to become independent as possible. That’s why it is imperative for all involved in his medical care and education to be on the same page to produce the best outcome for his overall success.
Tough Decision
Four years ago I made a tough decision to place Kenden in a therapeutic behavior classroom. His IEP ( Individualized Education Plan) team and I agreed the classroom would be best because of his physical behaviors. He will hit, bite, punch, kick, and throw objects. When he displays unsafe behaviors it hinders his ability to learn. The classroom gave him a one on one setting, a classroom with 2-3 other students, and trained staff that could provide a safe and controlled environment. Overall, Kenden did very well. So well, he was able to be included in a regular special education classroom from time to time. It was confirmation the classroom was the best decision and choice for him.
Fed UP
Less then a week before the 2021-2022 school year the school district disbanded the therapeutic classrooms throughout the district because of staff shortage. I understood the decision but I knew it wasn’t best for Kenden. As expected, school wasn’t going well for him at all. Lots of changes and new news led to him feeling overwhelmed and out of control, causing unsafe behaviors. Expressing and communicating his feelings and wants are difficult. Also, the ability to understand him when speaking can be challenging for the listener.
As his parent and advocate, I decided to take my concerns to his IEP team. I requested an IEP meeting. One of the members discouraged my meeting request. I was FINALLY fed up! Year after year working with the team, taking all of their recommendations, and doing what was requested had now become discouraging and disappointing. For me to request a meeting and it be denied fired me up! I did voice my frustration however it went unnoticed and unbothered. I emailed my local State Department of Special Education. They did intervene and tried to resolve my concerns but it still didn’t feel right. It was time the state knew the difficulties I have encountered with the district. I decided to file a formal complaint. I had a total of three grievances. After 60 days of investigation, the state found two out of the three grievances were findings and in violation of Kenden’s FAPE ( Free Appropriate Public Education).
The state required/ recommended the district complete training, mileage reimbursement, and make up OT services. After receiving the results of the complaint, I decided to hire an attorney. I wanted an expert on special education laws and to make sure the district follows through. After a couple of meetings, we finally came to a resolution and a new plan for Kenden.
Advocate Strategies
As stated above, advocating is hard and time consuming. Sometimes I always wonder where do I start?! Here are a few tips I utilized to get the best results.
Communication- I put ALL concerns, issues, and questions on the table. I want the IEP Team to do the same. I want to have an open and honest dialogue.
NEVER sign documents until FULLY understood- I consider K’s IEP a legal binding document. All are required to follow to the letter. No deviations can be made without it being in writing. If I don’t understand a document or suggested intervention, I don’t sign.
Utilize local State Special Education Dept- I have found, my local state dept will help schools and families with resources and knowing your legal rights.
Common Sense- Like Judge Judy says “ if it doesn’t make sense, it’s usually a lie.” If it doesn’t sound right, I go with my gut feeling. I want to ensure everything recommended is for the best interest of Kenden.
Don’t feel intimidated- As the parent, we are the leaders and head coach of the IEP Team. Everyone has their role and job however you know your kiddo best. Your considerations and recommendations are valuable.
Conclusion
I have included Vanderbilt Advocacy Class and the results of the state’s findings( 2021-2022 school year)
https://vkc.vumc.org/vkc/services/project/volunteer-advocacy/